Women, magic and sex. Get into it…

Women and Magic are synonyms. One and the same.

The essence of women is the very stem of which the flower of magic can bloom.

We are the great cultivators of creation itself. 

The nurturers. The teachers. The lovers. The warriors. 

Our duality is unmatched. Even so,

We yearn collectively to live in harmony with our male counterparts. 

Unfortunately it seems they’ve had another idea for us, throughout - almost all of known history.

Women and all that we are, have been reduced to the secondary sex whose only purpose is to procreate, please, and quietly obey their owner. I mean husband. 

The simple yet controversial fact is, men fear us. 

What do you do to a wild animal you're scared will eat you? You lock it in a cage. 

And I'm not talking about fear in the traditional sense, no. 

They fear the siren’s call they cannot ignore. Pussy. Their every instinct, desire, physical and mental pull is all towards the magic between our legs. The magic that creates ecstasy, bliss, and life itself.

Look at religion. Women = lust. Lust = sex. Sex = evil. 

So women = evil? How convenient for a man who has no self control. 

Pin it on us, come on, every other bad thing has been pinned on us since the beginning of time. 

The witch trails. Hysteria? 

The act of being a woman alone was enough to be hanged, or burned. 

All you had to do was - not agree with a man. Guillotine. 

Nothing says insecure like a man who murders you because you made a homemade remedy for a cold.  And we’re the emotional ones?

Right. 

It’s safe to say society has been fucked for quite a while. 

The worst part is, society is a completely made up system, meaning it didn't have to turn out this way. 

But it did.

Why?

I've been asking myself this question my entire life, 

and that question goes hand in hand with this one: 

Why do people villainize female sensuality, sexuality, and specifically women being in control of their own?

Men and women both do, some hate what they cannot be and some hate what they are but cannot express. A vicious cycle. 

Let's start here with a fact we can all agree on, if you don’t, you’re either lying, or are A-sexual, in which case you are exempt from this argument. 

We don’t choose to be sexual, we are BUILT to be sexual.

Some will argue that procreation is the only reason for sex. Well, okay. 

Then why the orgasm? 

Is it simply just to drive incentive for that procreation? I don’t think we would need a hit of actual MAGIC as an incentive just to have sex, when there is already base pleasure in the act alone. Sex without orgasm objectively feels good to both parties, even if no one gets to finish. This is very different from the experience of most animals that get no pleasure from it whatsoever. It's actually quite brutal and traumatic for some species. 

That being said, there are plenty of reasons to want to have sex other than 

“well, I guess it’s time to start a family.’’ *shrug*

This logic does make more sense when applying it to the male experience. 

The fertilizer gun gets ready, fertilizes, and then goes to sleep. 

It usually gets its job done rather quickly, sometimes….too quickly. 

Then, it needs 30 minutes until it’s ready to do any more fertilizing. 

While that efficiency might be appreciated if sex was only for making babies,

When you dive into female sexuality, it becomes extremely clear that is not the case. 

Those who believe in god and religion believe god makes no mistakes, and the ability to have 9 consecutive orgasms in a row is no mistake either. 

Do you think ‘god’ (whoever that may be to you) made a mistake when he gave women the ability to manifest pure all-consuming magic, over and over again through our delicate flower that also just so happens to be a portal to creation? No, it seems like more of a reward to me. 

“Thank you women, for being the bearers of life, growing and nurturing our children with your very life force and flesh. Have a little magic. Actually, have some more….”

Our sexuality is inherently different, male and female. 

Biologically the male is UP, ready, and done rather quickly. He even needs breaks in between. Its not a stamina issue, its just the way the body works. Even if the man themselves is strong and built for endurance, their mini-me just isn’t built that way. 

The female sexual experience is worlds different. We can get down to business and use our sexuality for just that, in and out, let's make a baby. That is all possible without the enjoyment of an orgasm, as long as the male does his job, no orgasm needed. So why are we able to have so many? It doesn’t add or take away from procreation, it just exists….mysteriously. 

The road to orgasm city is not necessarily an easy one either. 

In fact, it's often such a hard trek, some sadly never make it. 

That’s only if the task is left in someone else's hands, a solo mission can never be failed.  

The same way we are able to use our coochies as nothing but family starting machines, 

void of pleasure, all business - no party. 

We can also do the opposite. 

There is an entirely different path to a world of pleasure that only we can experience.

With the right simultaneous stimulation, a woman’s body will do things that you just can’t argue with. Nine, ten, eleven orgasms in a row is nothing but proof of the magic we naturally hold in our bodies. 

Now this brings me around to the concept of female lead sex work, using your sexuality as a tool, and the stigma around it.

The bottom line is that sex work isn’t all good or all bad, its just work. Its an industry just like any other, there’s exploitation, harassment, stress, and hard labor. Its not for everyone, just like being a firefighter isn’t for everyone.  Any institution can be corrupt, and most are. We have bad people employed in every type of department, so the problem people have with sex work has nothing to do with any of that - even though they love to act so concerned for us and our well-being. 

You’re not fooling me.  

The undeserving entitlement towards women is not a modern concept. 

It stems all the way back to when they created male dominated religions. 

The woman is to be fully covered up, quiet, meek, obedient. 

Men have been taught this harmful rhetoric by other men, and even brainwashed women, and spread the misogyny down generations and generations. We have quite a bit of unlearning to do, don't we?

As I said before, men seek to control the force that controls them.

Trap and cage it, so they can conquer it for once and for all.

We are the beacon of light they come out of, and chase going back inside their whole lives.

Whether they seek sexual gratification, guidance, or nurturing - 

they take it and have the nerve to treat us as beneath them. Absolute insanity. 

The male ego is a fragile thing - 

Look at how they cannot help but lead with lust, and it isn’t reserved for the depraved. 

Preachers, teachers, fathers, husbands.

They consume it in gluttonous amounts. Stuffing their faces, insatiable. 

They watch porn. Go to strip clubs. Cheat on their spouses. I see it everyday, first hand. 

Drooling like dogs while I spin around the pole, then back to their families to call me ‘fatherless.’

He’ll jerk it to the thought of me that night, while his wife sits alone wondering when the intimacy died. 

We are so very clearly, not on the same page.  

I whole heartedly believe, the fact that men are unconsciously controlled by their own lust is the very reason they hate a woman who embraces her sexuality. 

Although they will never admit this.

They want to be the hunter, catcher, and conquerer. 

When a woman is fully in control of her sexuality, she kind of flips the script and becomes the conqueror. Men may see this as emasculating when it is actually just us exploring our desires the same way as them. Instead of remaining a virgin and waiting to be chosen, we choose. 

When we take the choice back into our own hands, we’re sluts and hoes, when in reality we are just refusing to hand over control.  Hello!

It’s not like men don't like when women are “slutty”, they love it! 

They’re the ones who built the strip clubs, created PornHub, & OnlyFans, but look who’s scrutinized for it. Millions of men enjoy these things and then turn around and look down on the generous ladies who just gave him the great time he asked for. Pretty fucking backwards, right? 

I think men wish they were women. You heard me. 

Not literally, but they wish to be desired as men as much as they desire us as women. 

Everything men do can all be connected back to getting pussy. 

Women often choose involuntary celibacy just for their own peace of mind. 

This creates undeserving resentment. Look at the incel culture online, when men are constantly seeking attention from women and don’t receive the  attention they want, they turn violent, hateful, dangerous. Women just dont get that way, we cry and move on. We dont cause harm to people who dont want to fuck us. 

See, we are truly wired different. 

Being a dancer for 9 years, I interact with men from all walks of life, & boy do they show their true colors.

They definitely don’t see us as women to respect, or pretend to respect, so they don’t even bother to mask their true selves. 

They crave women, need women, but still can’t seem to genuinely respect women.  

It is a wild and raw insight into the male psyche. 

I don’t call myself a naked therapist for no reason. 

I have earned myself an honorary PHD in the male philosophy, and it has taught me that men and women are just different. When men joke about being wired differently, they aren’t wrong. 

I don’t know if we will ever truly be able to see eye to eye, desire the same things, genuinely. 

I think there will always be some disconnect. 

Whether it’s biology, societal conditioning, or a mix of both - I guess we never know for sure. 

If you want my own personal yet educated opinion, serving and holding space for the feminine is the most masculine thing you can do. 

The un-evolved man wants to consume, enjoy, mindlessly take without ever pouring back into her -  

an object to use and control. 

The evolved man - worships. On his knees he respects and protects the sacredness of his woman - all women  - and does it with pride. Not competition. He knows his job is important as the guardian of her magic. 

Men, my loves. 

You have the ability to be divine strength or absolute destruction. 

I urge you to lean into a way of being where a woman’s unknown cannot make you insecure, 

but instead fans your own flame of curiosity, and desire for connection. 

Sometimes the most transformative realizations come from the stillness - ability to listen.

Surrender. 

Remain the strong rooted pillar against Her powerful ocean waves, 

and see the harmony that can come out of it.